You have asked such a convoluted mish mash of questions---it is nearly impossible to sort them all out, or give an accurate answer. My undergraduate degree is in education and while I am not in education now, I still hold a teaching certificate and have had over a dozen years of "working experience" in both public and private schools.
First of all, you say your son circulated a paper to have people sign, something you say is against the school rules. But, you hasten to add, it wasn't a petition, merely a paper that people signed. My dear, a petition IS a paper that circulates that people SIGN. How do you define a petition?
There is obviously a lot missing from the story. The proper way to establish enough cause for a teachers removal is NOT done by insubordination of students. It is done by a combination of parents and teachers, school boards and superintendent coming together ACCORDING TO PROTOCOL. If your school has a rule against petitions, this means there is ANOTHER venue by which grievance can be aired. You have jeopardized the legitimacy of your position by NOT following the rules. Find out what the protocol is, and follow it. Then, you are above reproach.
Then you ask, "Is is right for a principal to take kids behind closed doors without any one in the room with them?" Dear, teachers take KIDS behind "closed doors" every single day. You use the plural, "kids". While it would never be advisable for a teacher to be ALONE with any child, a teacher with "KIDS" behind closed doors happens daily. Does your son have TWO teachers in the room at all times? You are grasping at straws to support a weak position while diluting what seems to be inappropriate actions by your son.
You then say, "The coach later that day pulled my son out of his class only to question him when he already knew the answer to the question." I don't know what the question was, or what the answer was either, but had the coach NOT done this, you would be writing here saying, "They never even talked to my son! They just ASSUMED." I see a pattern here.
Your posting goes on to say "This is the same school that last year my son was slammed into a locker and they told me there was no tape. I went to take out papers on this teacher and i was told i could not and that i had to file a police report 1st. I ask for a full investigation report and i still have not gotten on ." Why did your son get slammed into a locker? Why are you "taking out papers" on a teacher for your son getting slammed into a locker? What papers are you referring to and where are you "taking them"? Was it a fight he was party to? Perhaps there was no tape. Again, you were told to follow a procedure--"File a police report". You did not say you complied with the protocol. You said, "I asked for a full investigation (sic)report". Perhaps if you follow the directions and FILE the police report, a full investigation would be forthcoming.
You also state: "My son have and IEP in place the school did not use it last year nor are they using it this year." Do you know what an IEP is? It is an Individual Education Plan. This is something the teacher outlines for the student, optimally, something he will follow the entire year, to mark and chart his progress. The only time a student does NOT follow the IEP is when he DOES NOT turn in assignments, or comply with what is asked of him. A parent willing to COOPERATE with a teacher is a must for an IEP to work. An IEP is a PLAN, an outline. It is flexible, depending on the students progress. What are YOUR specific educational goals for your son that aren't being met? Perhaps if you went to the teacher and gave them, in writing, what YOUR goals are for your son, they could be aware of your obviously pristine high expectations for his educational performance.
As far as the threats of suing the school? What would you sue for? There are two sides to every story and something tells me, judging from your partial stories, your son has distinguished himself as a problem in school. School boards and educational systems have the top of the line attorneys representing them. Keep in mind that a threat to sue them does nothing to increase their willingness to accommodate your wishes or tolerate your sons behavior. Something tells me they have substantive records regarding your son and his behavior in school. All of this would be admissible in a court room--and would reflect very poorly on YOU as a parent for raising a child that, from what you've said, disregards instruction ( as you have ) and is insubordinate. Make sure that is a saber you want to rattle.
I am not saying your concerns are not valid. But, according to what you have written, you have diluted any legitimacy of your position by whining, not following established protocol, and encouraging insubordination among the rank and file of students. Do you REALLY expect everyone to bend over backward for your son when you have set a poor example for him to follow?
I cannot imagine your ever finding satisfaction from this situation. You haven't even articulated what exactly it is you want to happen. You have just rambled on in fragmented thoughts, and partial stories. My recommendation is to FOLLOW PROTOCOL and offer the teachers and powers that be some respect. They will be much more willing to accommodate your request when it is offered in the right spirit and according to established protocol.
I would also suggest that you actually go TO school with your son. Ask permission to sit in his class. See what he does all day. Watch the interaction and gain some insight into exactly what happens in a day in his life. Make notes about things that concern you. Don't encourage bad behavior on your sons part and then complain when everyone dismisses you as a trouble maker. If you want results, follow the rules.
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