need help for my stepdaughter

cant go into names but my stepdaughter had physical abuse and attempted sexual abuse by her stepdad i had ur report it but when the released her back to her mom her mom made her write letters telling the detectives and child services that it was a lie because she didnt want to be grounded. which none of that is true her father passed away 3yrs ago and over a year ago her mother moved her to manhasset to move in with a guy shed only known a short time her mother is stopping her from speaking to me her fathers family and my son her brother im worried about her and not sure what to do she isnt thriving in her inviroment at all they put her in a military school which she doesnt mind but they are trying to cut her off from the rest of the world because they want this kept under wraps the stepfather has money and his from money btu i still dont feel that gives him or the mother the rite to force her to live in that house she is scared to death to stay there with the stepfather living there i need to know what my best option to helping her??? thx

Much of your posting is hard to read--because there is no punctuation and it is hard to tell where one sentence stops, such as "they want this kept under wraps the stepfather has money".... surely they don't want to keep the fact the man is wealthy under wraps?

First of all, when a child makes allegations of abuse, or sexual molestation, when they recant their story, it has little bearing on the investigation. Example: My father is a minister and a young girl in his church got angry at her parents because she wasn't allowed to go to a party where the parents felt the children weren't supervised. So, in retaliation, she called protective services and stated she was beaten and molested. Social services immediately removed the children, and put them into my parents care since they are licensed foster parents. It took DSS six months to investigate and THEN declare the allegations unfounded and return the kids to their parents.

I said all of that to say, simply, that even when a child "recants" their story, as the girl above did, telling the police she lied because she was trying to get back at her parents, no one listened. If the young lady to whom you refer wrote all the letters in the world, I don't think that would matter. That isn't how the "system" works. Apparently an investigation was done---it would have to be---and she was returned to the home.

Now, as far as military school goes--how is that a punishment?? That is probably the best thing for the child, if what you are saying is true. They have the right to "force" her to live anywhere that is safe, and anywhere they deem appropriate. Unfortunately, she isn't your child and you have no say as to how she is raised. That is, sadly, one of the drawbacks of broken families. Also, Mom shacking up with another dude isn't a crime, either ( although I don't know why the mom would be protecting the stepdad from abuse charges if she left him for another man). If you think she is being abused ( as opposed to simply not getting her way, or her not getting YOUR way) call DSS and report your fears and let them investigate. "Failure to thrive" doesn't apply to teenagers who are going to military school. I dare say MOST teenagers going through those turbulent years often face times when they "fail to thrive". That isn't a crime.

You said her mom is shacking up wih someone, then you said the alleged victim is living with the step dad. Your posting is too confusing to give a more accurate answer than that.