Harassment ?

My husband and I are divorcing. We've been living separate for 2 months. We have 3 children together. His Ex-girlfriend is just over 4 months pregnant.
I've not had ANY contact with her, at all. I have had e-mail correspondence with my husband questioning/concering his paternity. He has not shared any of this correspondence directly with her. He has however, passed on information to her about me seeking legal advice concerning his paternity. I have spoken to a lawyer and know what I can/can not do. I have not pressed the issue since speaking to a lawyer, but continue having discussion with my husband regarding rights, paternity, etc.
This girl is military stationed overseas. She has threatened to sue me for harassment should I continue to make paternity an issue. Keep in mind, I've not spoken, e-mailed or had ANY contact with her at all. I've only spoken to my husband regarding issues. Am I not legally allowed to discuss back and forth with my husband, whatever I choose to? Especially if he partakes in the exchange?
Does she have legal backing to bring me up on charges of harassment?
I've posted this on other forums and most of the answers I get aren't answers to what I ask. I'm not going after the woman, I've not even had contact with her, so "why don't you leave her alone" isn't an answer. Also, "why do you care about the paternity" isn't an answer to my question either. And she has nothing to do with custody of MY children with MY husband and OUR divorce, so she can't have my custody taken away.

I'm only asking if she has legal backing to bring harassment charges against me.
Thanks in advance.

I don't know what she would sue you for. For a harassment case she would need to show the court repeated correspondence between you and her...this cannot be done.

I would not worry about it....its called blowing smoke.

Devil's advocate here .. while there are no legal grounds based on what you've posted, it's only logical that you run the risk of the same "non legal" interference in your own divorce proceedings. The same doubts, aggravations, unnecessary hostility and stress can be turned against you (and your children) using your own tactics. Were that to happen, you'd not only find yourself embroiled in a miserable and nasty situation, you'd have no more grounds for litigation than she does.

Just a thought.