Deceived for years

I gave my son up for adoption in 1991. I did not find out that his adoptive parents were jewish until a few months later. I was very upset as I am christian. Out of a moral obligation I felt I could not revoke the adoption due to the bond that was already formed. I have kept in contact with his adoptive parents for 15 years. On his 15th birthday I called as usual. I ask every year if he had ask any quetions. His mother had informed me if he ever ask then i would be allowed to talk to him. I talked to him up until he was around 7 years old at that point I decided it was not good for him until he could know who I was. His mother had always told him that i was just a friend. This year she told us he was on my space. My younger daughter through much consideration and prayer contacted him and told him who she was.Since then we have all talked and i went to see him. It is terrible what we have discovered.My son has not been to school since 3rd grade nor is he properly home schooled. He has been kept in most of his life and has very little social skills. His parents allow him to talk and behave anyway he wants but then they push their very strict jewish rituals on him. He is allowed to stay up all hours of the night and sleep all day. He is litterally wasting away in that house and he has ask me to get him out. I have contacted an attorney and am ready to fight.Also child protective services was called on the the day after I left from one of there Austic childs care givers. I feel I need to get my son back immediately so that I can help him intergrate back into society. Any comments are welcome. I am sick for my son and his situation.

You said, "I have contacted an attorney and am ready to fight." That's a good thing. Also, you're expecting too much from an Internet site for answers, especially when you fail to give us your State name. Laws are different in each State.

Thanks for writing.

I understand you do not agree with the way that the boys parents have raised him. But, what you are calling "neglect" and "abuse" can be very subjective. For example, your objection to the way the boy "talks" is irrelevant---this is not abuse. I home school my children, but I also have a undergraduate degree in Education and a teaching license, as well as two subsequent Masters degrees. Clearly, I am more qualified to teach than most teachers that stand in class rooms today, but I suspect you could find someone against home schooling who says what I am doing is wrong. I have also worked as for an adoption agency in Georgia doing child placements, home studies, etc. I am curious--and have to ask you--surely you understood by placing this child for adoption, you were relinquishing your right to dictate the what/who/when/how of his life, didn't you? I don't what agency you used--in the early nineties, the young ladies I worked with knew comprehensive information about the adoptive families they chose---how did you not know something as basic as religion?
At the risk of sounding cruel---I don't understand why, if you feel so deeply about your religion and have such strong inflexible ideas about parenting, why did you not parent him yourself, or at least be more selective about the family he went to? I believe the days of whisking a baby from his mothers side while she sobs, "Nooo, don't take my babyyyyy!" are over. How did this situation even happen?
Also, it isn't uncommon for adopted children to reach their teenage years and do the whole "Well, my REAL mom/dad wouldn't make me <fill in the blank>!! I think every teen goes through the "I hate my parents" stage---and in an adoption situation, this naturally leads to the "grass is greener" mentality.
If there IS something wrong in the home, let the proper authorities investigate and determine it to be so. Do not undermine the authority of the people you gave this boy to. Unless it was an open adoption with previously agreed upon participation, you abandoned your right to your opinion about his religion, schooling, the way he talks, etc. Regrettably, the bottom line is---LEGALLY, he isn't your son. He is theirs.

Obviously, this woman didn't understand, or more likely, didn't attend, her history classes. Those who don't learn their history are doomed to repeat it.

Young lady, it would do you well to read the "Rise and Fall of the Third Reich" and learn something about Hitler and his "SS" henchmen. Ah, yes . . . the Final Solution!

Oh like you've never gotten drunk, woke up from your stupor, and accidentally said, 'I just discovered after 16 years, my kids' adoptive parents are jews?'

mozeltov!

and you gave up your son...