Hello Again

As I stated before I am new to the forum. I have a question for anyone who can help. I have been married for 23yrs, seperated for about 4yrs. I am a roman catholic and I truly don't believe in divorce.(absolute) I was wondering if a limited divorce is an option for me. As I looked at the grounds I do have desertion and infidelity to go by. I am just a non believer in divorce. Also I did not get my share of the lump retirement when he retired from work and used the retirement I had with his signature to try and save my house which thanks to him I lost anyway. Any one have any answers or suggestions out there. I really do need some help as I have to do this by myself because I have no job until late sSeptember.
Thanks

I am not sure if you are asking a legal question or a religious one. If you actually read the Bible it speaks of divorce as being a sin, but that God "allowed" it because of the hardness of mens hearts. In other words, God doesn't condone it, but he "allowed" it.

If you think about it---divorce means apart, or separation---a gap between two people. It is possible for two people to live in the same home and be VERY far apart. I believe that God intended a partnership----the ending of the partnership already happened-----how can getting a paper that says it is ended make it "more of a sin"?

I am NOT condoning divorce---I am against divorce too. I think it is a travesty the way people make commitments and simply walk away from them. However, I think the spirit of God's laws are lost in the legalism of religion at times. As a basic rule, I find it bad policy to take your counsel from ANY religion. You will know what is right. Only you can decide.

It's also a good rule of thumb to follow to ask yourself, WHY DO I BELIEVE THIS? Example--I grew up in a strict 'religious' home. My father was a preacher later in life, so we couldn't wear pants, dance, go to movies, date, or even wear make up. However, as I got older, I asked myself do I really BELIEVE this is GODS instruction? Or is it MANS? Answering that question liberated me from a lot of legalistic BS. Realizing that NOT HAVING MATERIAL on the bottom half of your leg in no way made me a better person. Search your heart. Figure out why you feel like you do. Then act according to your heart--whatever that may be.

Legally, however , you need to follow the advice of an attorney to protect your interests. Perhaps some counseling would help you bring the legal and spiritual aspects of all of this together.

Good luck.

Gentle Grace
thank you for your response. I am and have been doing just that and will see what comes of my decision.