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Originally Posted by MRSSMITH
I'm married for almost 8 yrs.Husband wanted a divorce for a reason that he's not happy.He just wanted out and be single again.
He's been trying to offer me $30 thousand and a car to have a uncontested divorce.I don't have a job .I'm trying to go to school and get a decent job.Just finished and just waiting to pass the licence test.I'm scared and hurting.I don't know how to deal with it.
He had the house before we married and had paid it off 3 yrs ago. I have lived here for 7 yrs.Its' worth around $200K.He has a bank acct of at least $150 thousand and just bought a corvette.
He's retired and is getting some pension and sss of more than $3000 total.
I love him and I'm still hurting to know that he wanted a divorce.I caught him talking to some younger women on the phone.He was literally having a *** talk.and I heard him lying his age to the girl.He is 71 but he said he's 55 and told the other person on the phone that he's looking for some available women that like his pictures.?? I don't know if he has met these girls or not.I did not really get the whole conversation as I could only heard him.
My question is should I accept his offer and let him free?I could not afford a lawyer.What will I do? Should I accept his offer and go on with my life?
Pls help!!  |
Perhaps the most tragic part of your posting is "should I accept his offer and let him free?" He already IS free. While is body may be there, his heart, emotion, and party parts have apparently gone elsewhere. Perhaps a better question would be, why would you want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you? I have seen women humiliate themselves publicly, online and offline fawning over a man who was not only never worth their affection, he never returned the sentiment in the first place. As a woman, it makes me want to scream, HAVE MORE SELF RESPECT than that. If he wants a divorce, there is little you can do about keeping him from getting one. Obviously, he hasn't any morals, and you deserve to be loved and valued--not disrespected and put down. "Love" has nothing to do with it.
I don't know the state in which you reside, so I couldn't begin to guess about alimony. But, I would advise you to contact a divorce attorney in your area and ask for a free or low cost evaluation. Your husband could stand to lose more financially---and he very well may be low balling you.
If you are married, you can afford an attorney because HIS money IS your money--especially if your husband has a Corvette ( I know how much they cost--I have two) and is offering you thirty thousand dollars. You say you are in school. GED? College? decent job? What kind of licensure are you waiting for? If you are waiting for a teaching certificate, or a hair dressers license, as opposed to, say, a MD, then obviously, your earning ability will differ greatly and may be taken into consideration in divorce proceedings.
You can't afford NOT to hire an attorney.
05-19-2008, 02:41 PM
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