Advice needed

Hello Everyone,

I am excited to have found this website. Wish there were no need for this forum but, such is life. I am working against time, did not think to use this website and I am in a crunch financially; Internet use may be disconnected soon.

Problem: my husband is a sexual offender felon who was in prison for sixteen years. He came out of the prison system with no papers, no probation. He has to report to our city's Sheriff's Department every 90 days. He was arrested on warrant, failure to notify change of address and tampering with evidence.

He has been in jail for a month, series of pretrials, can not afford bail of $5,000; how do I get my husband out of jail?

You don't. I am not sure why you would think there was a way out of this. Being a s3xual felon is serious and not taking seriously your orders after being released is, in a legal sense, the unpardonable sin, as it were.

He's going back to jail, unfortunately for you.........fortunately for the rest of society who values their safety and that of their children and homes.

May I suggest that as presumably a law abiding citizen, you seek therapy? Women often stay with/marry pedophiles for serious psychological and emotional reasons. LIfe is short and you ---and anyone, actually---deserves a better life than to be joined with a pedophile. Pedophilia is one of those things where the offender cannot be rehabilitated-----this isn't an opinion, it is widely documented fact from reliable sources. I worry for you and for your children if you indeed have any. http://www.missingkids.com/en_US/publications/NC70.pdf

Please don't ring the "he has changed" bell---the fact he has violated probation for ANY reasoni indicates he has not.

For yourself, please seek better. You deserve it.

To: GentleGrace and anyone else who has an opinion,

You do not know the circumstances of my husbands history or case, so do not presume you know everything. My husband obeys the laws and there are mistakes made on both sides many times; so yes, I am doing what I can to seek my husbands release.

Do not dare to analysis me, my husband grew up in the prison system due to an unjust legal system and his ignorance of the law. I married a wonderful man. Do not dare judge me or him.

Thank you for your comments and being a Christian woman I forgive you for your ignorance. Do not even begin to presume that the judicial system is always right. Do not go through life that ignorant.

"CONCERNED CITIZEN"? LOL I laughed aloud when I read that. You are living with, supporting and defending a s3xual PREDATOR FELON and you are CONCERNED ABOUT ANYONE who suggest you are in a dangerous position ?? You DO realize that if your s3xual predator HUSBAND commits another S3xual felony under YOUR roof or with YOUR children that YOU could be held responsible? You are willing to assume that mantle of liability for someone who has been a s3xual felon his whole adult life?? Good god.......Oh, that's right--he's INNOCENT and he just didn't KNOW the law. Right.

Sad typical defensive response that is garnered when you want something better for someones life than to choose to spend it with a convicted s3xual offender. I make no apology for suggesting YOU yourself are WORTH more than that.

In my previous posting, I made no judgment about the convicted s3xual felon aside to say that he went to jail for his crime ( contrast that reality with your defense of him above "he obeys the law"---really?? Why did he spend 16 years in jail and is in jail again??? I've never been to jail--have you???) and when he was released he still was not in compliance with the law, the result of which is he is once again in prison. That is NOT a comment on his character or actions, but is a FACTUAL expression of the information YOU provided. Everything I said was the truth---I made not one judgmental or critical comment about him---I simply said he went to jail for 16 years and is a s3xual predator (this is true). I also said he did not follow the law and has been detained again (this is true). I did not belittle him, I did not mock him, I did not suggest he belongs in jail----all of that defensive assuming in the first posting was on your part, Madam.

Forgive me for having the gall to suggest you as a person, your emotion, your efforts, etc. would be better spent focusing on positive energy and activities instead of relegating your life to being with a man who is a s3xual predator--one of the few offenses that experts say cannot be rehabilitated.

Its sad, actually-----read your posting. Its all someone else's fault. He is a product of the system---he is ignorant of the law-----my dear, ignorance of the law is NO excuse. While I may have the benefit of law school, I, and also, I bet YOU have never run afoul of the law, have you? You didn't go to law school but you are intelligent and respectful of the law enough to break it. Understand my point? You are full of excuses how his entire adult life HE is the victim----and that is exactly the mentality that results in women like YOU becoming a statistic.

My only point in my first posting was NOT to judge you OR him but to restate the facts as YOU stated them and point out that scientific literature on the subject suggests YOU are at risk. Encouarging you to want better for your life than to live in danger and with the stigma of a s3xual felon is offensive to you? That's incredibly sad.

My hope is some day you will raise your gaze a bit and realize that YOU are worth more than a life of jeopardy and uncertainty which is exactly what you have with a convicted lifelong s3xual felon who is again in jail for his inability to follow simple directions such as registering every ninety days.

And I'll sign MY posting...CONCERNED CITIZEN. Concerned about s3xual felons who cannot follow the law once released and register to keep MY children and ME safe. Concerned CITIZEN? Madam, you have no care for your own life------and even less for my life or my children's life for defending him.

Become concerned.........about the right things. EDUCATE YOURSELF beyond your EMOTIONS. READ documented scientific studies about the dangers both you AND I are in as a result of this predator. Being concerned because someone tells you that your life could be in danger because of a convicted s3xual FELON who is yet again BACK behind bars where he cannot hurt you OR me makes you concerned? Madam, you are beyond the help of a message board or legal forum.

Click here: Can adult *** offenders be rehabilitated? | Psych Central News


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