Failure to Appear but was not Notified of a Hearing

Hi I'm totally new to this.

Our Situation is that the Police came to our home and found Marijuana which was ours for Personal use ( Not Disputing it is Illegal )

We were not arrested or Read our Miranda Rights. We were told that we'd receive a notice in the mail if charges would be Brought against us and if we had to go to court we remained in the same Apartment for 9 months and never received anything from the court.

We were informed by a friend that I only had a Bench warrent for $900.00 Failure to appear

We never got anything from the courts.

I am Disabled and Have a Condition called Agrophobia ( Fear of Leaving Home and for Me to go to Jail on these charges I may as well commit suicide as the Police insisted we were selling the Marijuana Which is not True it was for Personal use only. There was abt. a Quarter pounds worth if that as when we obtain it it was once a Month and did not use it all at a time but since we could only get it once a month for severe pain in My Neck and Shoulders it sometime added up but We Never sold any to anyone.

I did have a Digital Postal scale as I did A home mailing program so had to weigh Packages.

I am concerned abt. how to deal with these charges since they are only partially accurate?