Same Bed

My daughter goes to her fathers every 1st 3rd and 5th weekend. Is it against the law in Texas for them to share a bedroom. Doesn't she have to have her own room?

Hu?

How old is your daughter? Some people, especially single ones, live in large opened lofts or flats with beautiful open areas of living, and not really distinct "rooms". If she was 17 and sleeping in BED with him, I could see how that would be a problem. IS there a problem with her sleeping in the same room? I cannot imagine the state legislating that parents and children must sleep in different rooms. After my husband died, my ten year old son slept beside me for almost a week in his daddys "spot". Is there a reason she shouldn't be in the same room?

She is 4 years old but in my opinion she should have her own area to play in and change and do her thing in. I don't mind them sleeping together as long as there is a space for her to go if she doesn't want to. I believe she should have her own area and space for herself.

Own area to play in? I am not sure what that means. My children currently have a huge playroom--and it sits, largely, unused. Guess where they want to play? Guess where they want to be? Where ever I am. When they were very small, they would neglect toys and PLAY with the BOXES the toys came in. If I was cooking, they were in the kitchen beating on pots and pans. If I was folding laundry, and putting it away, they were in the closets. If I was cutting grass, they were in the yard. Understand my point?

The sleeping issue is one over which specialist disagree. There are both extremes---there are people who preach the idea of a 'family bed', where everyone sleeps together, regardless of age. Then there are those whose infants sleep in bed with them. And, there are other families all along the spectrum. And unless some kind of obvious questionable behavior is taking place, (such as a fifteen year old sleeping with a teenaged brother, or father or uncle) it boils down to preference.

My son was four years old when my husband was suddenly killed in a work accident last year. I didn't feel comfortable with the idea of his sleeping in my bed, but for a time, he slept in the same room with me and in fact, now he is five and he still does. He has a bed in another room, but the fact is, I PREFER him here so if he sleep walks ( as he often does ) or gets up in the night for some reason, or is sick, I don't have to get up and walk to the other side of a rather large house to get to him. So, at this point, his sleeping in the room with me isn't an emotional issue, it is a practical one that benefits ME. Sometimes, he falls asleep with his nine year old brother, or on his fifteen year old sisters bed, reading books with her. Sometimes, he stays, and sometimes we move him.

I guess what I'm saying is, children need and want privacy at different ages---if your child wants privacy, I'm sure the house has a bathroom where she can change. Of course, in a perfect world, everyone would get their own bed, bedroom, dressing circle, closet, and bathroom, but realistically, that just isn't practical.

Bottom line: I don't see that the bed is the issue---it is, more precisely, about the child's specific needs. If the childs needs are not being met, address why. I am not certain the bed has anything to do with it unless she (not you) mentions it. There are no laws that can legislate something as subjective as a child having 'enough space'.