custody modification/drug abuse

I don't think he felt dumb, I think he felt scared he was going to JAIL for doing drugs if he showed up LOL maybe not as dumb as we think, eh?

I don't think this situation is as much about him NOT caring for your daughter as it is HIM caring for HIMSELF the most at this point in his life. Hopefully, in time, that will change.

I'm happy today went as well as could be expected.

GentleGrace -

What do you think it means that the judge didn't put any condition or stipulation in the order? I mean she didn't put anything like "must complete drug counseling...blah blah and the court will allow unsupervised visitation" and it doesn't say anything about 'reverting' to the old schedule. Would that mean she is basically leaving it to my daughter's dad to figure out what to do if he wants more time or unsupervised? I have read other places where if the parent had a drug problem, the order would have some kind of stipulation for them to get treatment and do things over a period of time to modify the schedule again.

If I understand what you are asking--you want to know why, since the judge basically 'scaled back' his parental visitation, etc. why she didn't say "If you get to the point where you do such and such , you can do such and such again"?

There doesn't seem to be a reason for her to rule on possibilities for him to regain his rights when he doesn't care enough to even show up. She is putting the ball in his court, waiting for him to demonstrate a willingness to be a parent and do what it takes to make that happen. He doesn't deserve an opportunity to revert to his former privileges---so I don't see her leaving that door opened. Maybe she left it closed to see if he has the courage, the maturity, and most of all, the desire to make the changes necessary to open it.

That would be only a guess.

Good luck!