Just don't understand!

I don't think this is "malpractice", I never really hired this atty. but was never really given chance. I just didn't know where to put this thread!
Went in late Oct.,2008 to see divorce atty. for "free consultation". I'm a woman, 61, disabled, married only 7yrs. not living together for last 14mo. Anyway, she wasn't there for the consult. I waited about 1/2hr. then her husband took me into his ofc. & we talked for a few min.(I don't consider this my free consult). He told me he really didn't know a lot about divorce, he was criminal. But, said my problem didn't seem too hard & she was good at what she did, she could probably call him & get him to do what he ought. He said he'd talk to her about me & have her call me Mon., he said he'd have her do up papers for me & wouldn't charge me...because he liked me. He's Italian, too, probably 35ish, I'm old enough to be his mom, at least. Felt like maybe had someone on my side. Not sure what I could do or get, can't probably afford but thought someone good could probably get their fee from him too. We hadn't really started anything yet, I was trying to find out where I stood so maybe could get this over with quickly & cheaply as poss. Well, didn't hear from her Mon., Tues. I left a msg. for a call back, Wed. left a msg. for a c/b, too. She finally called, Wed. late or Thurs. I don't remember. Seemed mad, why mad at me? Really didn't want to talk to me, said he had not talked to her about me, which seemed a lie since she was mad & didn't want to listen or give me another appt. & said something about couldn't afford to work for free, would cost me $1000 & HUNG UP ON ME! I think that is just wrong, really upset me & a few weeks later I called(sec. had given me his cell phone #)& he ans. said was busy(Tues.)would I call again Fri.? Fri.(day aft. Thanksgiving)I did call. He said he was with her & would have her call me in 5min. Haven't talked to either since! What is up with that? Rude. But really, if she was mad at him for telling me what he did, couldn't she have at least given me the consult & maybe explained & given me some options? Don't I deserve a lawyer as much as any one? I have emailed, called ofc. & left msgs. on his cell phone, nothing. I even told him I had another problem that I'd like to talk to him about, still he won't call! He maybe could have helped me himself? Or recommended someone? I've been on waiting list for legal aid forever. Now husband has a lawyer(his friend) & has filed, not that I care but how am I supposed to fight a lawyer? Husband is a creep & thinks I deserve nothing, but he had nothing when we got together & I had a lot. Now he has more than I do, not a lot maybe, but he can work & worry about nothing but himself(like that's diff.)but, I wasn't working or able to work before we got together am now on ss disability & have no way to support myself & can't live on what I get/mo.(he's probably making 3X's that much at least)& have nothing left that I had before marriage that would have made it possible for me to live by myself, I can still take care of myself, but am forced to live with my daughter/husband/4+kids! If they had helped me, don't know but maybe could have all been over & I'd have some alimony to help me so I can have some life & dignity back! What can I do? If anyone has an answer, PLEASE let me know! Had a home, some money, got inheritance during marriage. He would spend months every yr. on unemployment & not keep up on bills & all is gone now. Just found out, aft. I had our house cleaned/fixed to rerent/sell that he had defaulted on loan now even any chance to make something back from it is gone. Makes me mad that a lawyer would offer to help & then just desert you. Maybe wouldn't be here if had some help! Can anything be done or does anyone care how they run their business? I'm so upset at lawyer & spouse who took everything I had & left me with no way to support myself that I want to make him give me alimony indefinately! He was soul supporter & messed that up, don't think is fair that he should be able to just walk away & never look back & not have some responsibility for me. He took it on...didn't have to, I had ways to support me then, now I don't he squanderd it all & lost my home. IS THERE ANYONE WITH AN ANSWER? ANYONE KNOW ANYONE WHO CAN HELP ME GET SOMETHING FROM HIM? IS IT RIGHT TO DO THIS TO YOUR DISABLED WIFE? Living in Oklahoma City, OK. area. Need help, need a way to get some of my life back!
Thanks!

The laws on divorce have changed so that a woman or man have to have been married for 20-30 years before their spouse would have to pay alimony. It just doesn't exist any more. Judges are telling women who have never worked to take three or four years of support, get educated and take a job.

The fact that you were disabled BEFORE you married is key to the idea that your prospects have not been dimmed... you married a bum who used your inheritance... but you let him do it by having the money in a joint account or allowing him to talk you into it. The house is gone and what did you expect he would do? He hasn't provided for you during the marriage... so why do you think 7 years of marriage to him would qualify you for support for the rest of your natural life when you AREN't married?

So he left. Good riddance to bad rubbish.

Sorry, but this is the way the laws read these days. Not fair to women who thought they only had to get married once and their expenses would be paid, but in the old days it was not fair to the men who married a person who wouldn't or couldn't be a helpmeet and had high health expenses so they couldn't get ahead and then took the guy's last dime trying to maintain two households after a divorce. You just got caught in the change up.

Your only asset was the inheritance. If you can show he STOLE it, you might have a case. But you don't have a case if you put that money or asset into his hands or his bank account.