And here goes Boykinmama with her two cents.

Poster, your life is demeaning, you totally abdicate your responsibility to protect yourself and continue making ugly remarks about a man you cared for at one time. Neither of you are working on being parents. You both are using your daughter for a means to punish the other... but both of you don't seem to see that you are punishing your daughter. Now she's been neglected for such a long time that she doesn't have a clue as to what a real person can expect out of life. You certainly haven't given her an education in that area. He has just been trying to get to you. You both failed her.

You have made your own agreements, you don't even seem to know that it is over as far as the legal system goes. She is of age.

So instead of coming to a legal aid forum, please seek counseling so you can at least begin to live a real life instead of this "poor me" version. It is up to you to teach your daughter by example that YOU can life a righteous life... and that includes inviting her to visit and showing her that you are not in dire straits because you have begun to work on YOURSELF.

My sister is on disability and manages... it is not great, but she has friends, has a life, and has found ways to use Walmart as a place to pace off her exercise so she can lose weight. She just doesn't shop. She has always been there for me in a way you don't seem to be able to be there for your daughter. She listens. In return, I do for her in ways she cannot provide. If you think about your daughter as being a crutch, she won't come around. If you think of her in terms of family, then you will find ways to keep in touch and to keep a happy face on. A counselor could probably help you see ways to feel better about your life... and if you can turn YOURS around, then maybe, just maybe, your daughter could use your experience as a guide on how to turn her life around and actually stop demeaning herself by messing with married men. But YOU NEED TO LEAD THE WAY. You are your daughter's only hope to picture herself as NOT a child of a broken life, broken home. Try your best to give her that new image of YOU and your life so she can begin to get the picture of what it looks like.

You came here looking for something. You've received the best we can do for you. Now why don't you spend some time trying to figure out what YOU can do for yourself. Your daughter is grown... all you can do for her is to give her a picture she can emulate. Don't keep up this complaining nag image. Do something for yourself. Help her see that you can.