Originally Posted by tashas

I left my husband in April after he accused me again of having an affair.( I have never broken my vows) I have two boys 3 and 5, and they are very close to their father. I didnt want to pull them from thier home and from thier daddy, but I didnt know what else to do so I lef them there. So i left my kids there but I visit almost everyday (atleast 2 to 3 times a week) and I get them everyother weekend. I wanted to work things out, but he has changed so much I now see that I want to dissolve this. He is trying to tell me that he can claim abandenment and can have sole custody. I still give him 85% of pay check to pay bills with and I am always with my boys, can he do that? I have not been ugly wit him but he has sent me nasty messages and I have saved all of them. I dont want this to get messy but we need to sell the house and come to terms on custody, but I cant afford a lawyer, not right now im paying him all the money I have...what do I do?