Well as for your points all but the age one referring to maturity, girls for the most part mature faster than boys the law even allows for this in TN allowing a 4 year gap to be legal. As for me encouraging her to disobey her parents it is quite the opposite I wish to have her honor their wishes I only want to have one last communique before I break things off for the time being. I have decided to wait it out and if things work out after she is 18 then everything good an if they dont then go on with life. Your point of her guardian telling me not to talk to her is invalid considering I said that the person who contacted me is not her guardian or even acting as her guardian or as a proxy of her guardian. The major issue that I am faced with is how much of my life should i change to not get charges filed on me and thus the asking about if it is blackmail or extortion. should I remove myself from the 18 and older forum that I have been a part of for awhile where I met her. should I delete my myspace page because I should be scared of posting a bulletin to everyone that knows me on there? Should I change my e-mail and phone number in case I accidentally call or e-mail the wrong person or see a e-mail or phone call from someone that I dont know after I delete her number and e-mail from my phone/ e-mail system? How far should I worry about this is my main concern at this point?