Your case is complicated and detailed and much of it boils down to he said she said. If you are not satisfied with your legal representation, get another attorney. I don't know exactly what you want anyone here to tell you.

Unfortunately "witnesses" regarding what a great father he was does not negate allegations of abuse. Virtually every time you read about abuse in the news, it is followed with dazed neighbors and family members saying "I had no idea--he was such a NICE guy"........

The law boils down to what you can or cannot prove. Period. Feel free to get another attorney if you aren't satisfied. I wish I could offer you more, but I am still not certain what your question is.