Many years ago I hooked up with a male-pig just long enough for him to impregnate me. I dumped him & he's made my life a living hell ever since.

During my entire pregnancy he showed up with 2 items. One was a boy's outfit & the other one was a broken crib. Everything else our baby had was from my family or our friends. My mom worked for atty's...obviously not the kind of atty's I needed...but her atty friends gave her some cool stuff.

Because we weren't married therefore weren't divorced I didn't know how to go about establishing paternity & getting anything court ordered. We made a verbal agreement at $200/mo & that's what my sickly kid & I lived on the first 8 years of her life. More often then not...just to upset me...he'd send it to my mom forcing me to make an extra trip to her house so she could sign the check over to me & I go cash it.

My kid was a sickly kid. I would lose babysitter after babysitter therefore job after job. We got public housing, food stamps, & Medicaid. My kid's dad came to see her maybe 4 times in 13 years & barely paid attention when he did show up. She went to see him 2 or 3 times but he & his family got on her nerves so bad she cut the trips short.

When my kid was 8 I got married, got a great job, got great insurance, got my kid well, got diagnosed with a few things myself, got divorced, then got fired for being sick & lost my insurance. Still I worked several more jobs, went to college, & was trying to start/run my own home biz on the side. About all my kid could do was cause trouble before & after school, at school, she trashed my furniture, & she ran any prospective friends or boyfriends off. She wanted it me & her & she wanted me doing anything & everything for her. Then my mom died & the crap hit the fan.

So I took my then 15 year old teenager who refused to lift a finger to her dad who also refused to lift a finger. They convinced each other & their friends that not only should I be working outside the home but also still cooking for & cleaning up after a 15 year old as well. I wasn't seen as trying to start/run my own home biz...I was seen as playing on the net all day. I was seen as abusive & neglectful. So I left them alone together for 4 mo's.

I couldn't even leave town & he already screwed up. He got in a wreck with our kid in the car & the person in the other car was killed instantly. Now our kid refuses to drive a car. Then he dumped his elderly mom & clinically proven insane sister...both of whom had shock therapy & were basic strangers to my child...on my high school student. She was expected to play caregiver & it didn't work out very well so next thing you know she's telling kids at school she wished she could just die.

While I was off looking for help I was actually being used, ripped off, kicked out & left homeless, raped, harassed, assaulted, stalked & cyberstalked. I went back to my baby to find out what was going on then the elderly woman & insane sister were dumped on me...a sick/disabled woman. And all anybody in this house knows how to do is scream/yell & threaten like children. I was calling APS thinking the elderly woman would've been better off in a nursing home. I was calling the mental hospital thinking the insane sister would've been better off there. Somebody called CPS because my kid was telling kids at school she wished she could just die. Nobody would help us. They told me to take my kid to counseling. I said what good would it do when we have to come back to this? If you ordered the entire house to go we might've gotten somewhere but no.

Basically after a huge fight the insane sister dropped dead of a massive heart attack & was left to rot 4 days. They hadn't even hauled her body out yet & her brother was already making fun of her. This woman not only helped raise him but also his son. After her closed casket funeral I took my kid & fled.

Her father threatened to quit paying child support the minute she turned 18 even though she still had a few more months of high school. So I got the CSEA involved who started garnishing his wages 2/3 months before she graduated & paid me later then he ever did. Otherwise she not only didn't hear from him she didn't get birthday or Christmas presents or a graduation gift.

We got back here & she told me I was either going to haul her to school or she wasn't going. So yeah I hauled her half-way across town so she could go to better schools with her best friend. She still wouldn't hardly lift a finger for me...not without much fighting first. I had to force her to get a job plus haul her back/forth to it too even though it was just down the street. She refused to walk or ride a bus in this neighborhood. But she finally graduated high school & sure enough her father quit giving her a dime the second she did.

I had been fighting for disability & finally won. Since she was graduated & I am disabled I said she's going to walk & ride a bus 'til she wants to learn how to drive. Instead she quit her job & refuses to sign up for college classes even though she can go to college for free.

She's been screaming fear of this & fear of that so I've been taking her to people & they've given her drugs she refuses to take then claims they don't work. She wouldn't do anything for me or herself either one. I tried to get all kinds of pros & agencies & orgs involved & can only look like an abusive or neglectful a-hole. We can't prove her as crazy as her relatives so I can't put her in a group or nursing home.

She's at least a dependent & also a pathological liar. But now she's an adult & there's nothing I can do about it. I called her father & insisted he help us out with a driver's training course & a car. Instead he got her on the phone & promised her the moon & stars again. So next thing you know instead of growing up & becoming responsible she dumped my sick/disabled butt in the worst projects in Tulsa & went back to the liar/abuser/neglecter that's disrespected us her whole life.

I want her to get the help she finally needs. There's something seriously wrong with a child who refuses to help their sick/disabled parents. And not just that but run off all their other help or destroy their reputation so they can't get any help.

And I want to see him in jail where he belongs. There's something seriously wrong with a "man" who would teach his daughter to disrespect the one who raised her. He promised her free rent/bills/food/insurance/college plus a driver's training course & car but only if she moved there. What kind of man teases his own daughter like that? And how do these things help her...free rent/bills/food/etc. He told her she only had to work if she wanted to.

He's trying to keep her disabled & stuck at home with him just like he did with his mom & sister. No one else will put up with him so he forces himself on family...or tries to buy them off. He's sick. He's still abusing/neglecting & disrespecting my daughter. But she's such a dependent she'll put up with it versus growing up & helping herself.

Having me here sick/disabled & alone & her there disabled & abused/neglected is absolutely ridiculous. I can't believe no one can step in & do anything against her father for causing a lot of this. She's been gone since January yet still don't know how to drive, isn't working, & isn't signed up for college classes. I wouldn't be surprised if her pell grant hasn't expired. He also didn't get her on any kind of insurance therefore she can't get any better. She's 19+ with no clue how to take care of herself but all she can talk about is a divorced man with a kid & wanting to have a baby. What can I do?