My daughters father and I dated about 3 months back in 2002, he cheated and I found out I was preg 7 days later. We tried to work it out but we havent been together since I was 6 months preg with her and she's 5 years old now. He's the one that calls me names in front of our daughter and verbally abuses me and I do have this recorded even still on my phone but the judge wouldnt barely even hear me.
I was dating a guy for 2 years and we broke up in Feb 2008 so I moved out the next month. He was the one that was watching my kids but we broke up and I moved. I had no babysitter when I moved and thats how they got out, because I was working 3rd shift and didnt have someone UP WATCHING THEM.
What he showed to the judge was the police report when I was charged with child endangerment. It stated that they had climbed a six foot fence and were playing in the deep end of the pool as well as the slide and it was empty. Thats why she granted the order, cuz something could have happened to them. Also, in Feb of '08 at around 6:30 p.m. it was a fri and I was off but I was waiting for Tommy (daughters father) to pick up our daughter for his visitation. Well I was doing the dishes and called him and was talking with him and both my children were playing together, anyhow I heard a scream and looked into the other room and my daughter had plugged in the paper shredder and ended up cutting the tip of her left ring finger off. I took her to the hospital as quick as I could and even took my son and I stayed with her all night and her father showed up for about an hour and left. All he does is blame me for it, but I was cleaning up the dishes and kids get into things and cannot be watched every minute of everyday, it was an accident, but he puts the blame on me. Thats all he showed the judge those 2 things and I lost her.
I had 2 photos of a pot pipe that I had taken at his house while visiting with my daughter and my attorney asked him if he smoke pot, and he said yes occasionally I do. Although the judge barked at him about smoking pot and told him that if he doesnt stop and gets caught by the police or anyone, that kiaira(our daughter) would go to foster care, she still ordered the tpo into a permanent one.
I have been told by numerous people, even lawyers, that the judge I had is not very fair and is very mean. I live in West Chester, Ohio and my court was in Hamilton, Ohio.
What I dont understand is, that if we lived in a perfect world, we would all be with the kids fathers and we would have good jobs and be happy but its not that way. I am a single mom and I do try, I never want anything to happen to my kids. I have to work to support my kids, I wasnt living on section 8 and and the system, I was trying to give my kids a good life. Nobody is perfect, I am a sinner although I try to not be I am, only the lord is not. I just dont understand how the government expects us single moms to live. They do not take my car payment into anything nor do they the insurence but I have to have a car to go to and from a job, drop off kids at the sitters, go to doc appointments and numerous things, those combined for me, is like over $500 a month and then the gas to do all that is a lot more. I have had it for a year and if I let it go back now my credit will be aweful and everywhere looks at credit anymore. The way the economy is now is repulsive. All I do is take care of my kids and work, nothing else and I dont and am not lying lie cuz if I want an honest opinion and advice then lying would do me no justice. It seems as though working, loving and taking care of our kids is not enough or shall I say not good enough.
I'm sorry if I've written to much about this issue but if I did not love my daughter, I wouldnt ask for advice and would just let her go.