Yes ma'am I do understand that something could have happened to them and I understand I was wrong. I prayed to God thankful that nothing did happen to them as I would have never been able to forgive myself. What I was saying was that I was living with a boyfriend and he was watching my kids while I slept during the day for a couple hours. Then we broke up and I moved out and had gotten my own place. I couldnt find an affordable babysitter that quickly for both of my kids. I am a single mother of 2 kids and My parents are disabled so they cannot help and my sis cannot either as for other family members they live about 2 hours away, so I really had nobody. To take care of my kids, I have to work and if I dont work I wont have anywhere to live or be able to feed and get clothes for my kids. Yes my children did get out of the house while I would sleep on the couch but I guess I didnt think it was wrong because I was still there. My kids arent in school because my daughter just turned 5 and my son just turned 4. I'm going through the child endangerment charges as we speak, so I havent been convicted yet, I dont have a record at all. Children services gave me the letter and it was substantiated for neglect, there's no denying my kids were outside while I was asleep but they closed my case already and stated there was no reason for protective services. She recommended for me to get counseling and parenting classes which I am getting signed up for them both. The lady from children services even said she doesnt understand why the restraining order was granted.
My daughters father and I just went to court cuz he was trying to get full custody of her, after 3 months of deliberation he dismissed my daughters fathers case on him wanting custody, this was just granted in Jan 14, 2008 but me moving and my kids getting out happened after this. He is the one that filed for the restraining order on me and she awarded it to him. There was no need for supervised visitation she just stipulated I get my daughter every other weekend from sat 6 to sun at 6 AS LONG AS I WAS AND STAYED AWAKE, but the restraining order is still in effect and he has temp custody. I did quit my job due to this and I had even stated I found a baby sitter, children services and my landlord helped me find one.
My daughters father verbally abuses me and I do have a couple messages saved on my phone with him cussing at me and one with my daughter on the phone. He smokes pot and he admitted it to the judge. I dont understand how she would let him care for her while hes under the influence of drugs. I am appealing the judges decision for 2 reasons, first there was already an order in effect in the juvenile court and second because children services stated there was no need for protective services and they closed my case within 30 days, they also didnt take my son. I just want my daughter back, I love her and so does her brother. I understand what you may think. I put alarms on my doors and chain locks, it was only until I could find a babysitter, an affordable one. Its hard to be the only income in the home and care for 2 children, my sons father is in jail so I dont get any support from him. I did get $400 for my daughter, but I was paying for my kid's insurence and the copayments plus the rent and my car payment so, I could go to work and take them to their appointments. Ive made sure they are up to date on their shots and when they are sick I take them to the doctors. I'm not a perfect mother but I'm trying hard, I'm going to take the parenting courses and counseling and I have a babysitter for my children.
I dont know how to get the restraining order dropped or how to get custody of my daughter back, I cannot wait 5 years. My daughters father says he will drop the restrainging order if I sign over full custody to him but I just cannot, he says if I dont he's just going to the juvenile court and file for full custody anyway. I dont want to only see my daughter every other weekend and not be able to help her with her school work, or take her to school activities, I dont want her to think I just gave up and dont want her. her father works from 7 in the morning and gets off at 6, so he's not around very much and he's smoked pot ever since Ive known him at least, which is like 7 years. I dont want him to care for her under the influence and keep calling me names and cuss at me around our daughter. She asks me if I miss her and says she never gets to see me and my heart just breaks, she also misses her brother very much. Sorry this is so long but I wanted to include all the details so that you knew. Please help me and let me know what I can do.