I have no idea how this could be the case. I simply cannot fathom two adults who had enough in common to cohabitate and create two children being unable to grow up enough to keep their family under the same roof. And, as a mom of seven, I cannot imagine hating their father enough to abandon THEM. There is nothing in the world he could have said or done while he was alive to make ME leave MY children. I just do not see the correlation.

In any regard, I do not need to see it. And, it appears you missed the point of my posting. Even though you left, he has no right to stop you from coming into the house---you were never evicted , given thirty day notice, etc. I don't know how long ago it was you left, but if enough time has passed, I don't suppose he has to let you in since it is his house ( if it is not deeded to you, or your name isn't on the lease, etc). I don't suppose you can come and go indefinitely for years, still considering it your own.

I suspect everyone you encounter, including your divorce attorney will ask you to explain why you abandoned the kids because your husband called you an unpleasant name.

I hope you have an answer---not for me---I don't need one. But for him----and more importantly, for you.