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Originally Posted by kwright0810
I went to court over a tpo on 5/14/08 and they made it a final restraining order for 5 years. I am a mother of 2 children one 4 and one 5. I was working 3rd shift for 2 years but am now not working. I had moved out of my boyfriends place cuz we broke up and he was watching my kids so I had to find a new sitter but could not. I would drop them off at 9 and then pick them up in the morning at 7 when I got off. My kids got out of the house a couple times and every time they did I put something on the door so they could not get out but somehow they got out anyway. Well the third time they got out the police brought them home and they were really nice they said they had to charge me with child endangerment cuz they were out by themselves. They had climbed a 6 ft fence and was playing in an empty pool and were playing on the slide at the deep end of the pool.
The police didnt call children services but my daughters father did and children services said as long as I got a sitter then they were fine and left the kids with me. Then my daughters father went to the court and got a restraining order on me against my own daughter and I cannot see her except for 2 days a month. The court gave him temp custody for 5 years!! He even admitted in court that he smokes pot and calls me names in front of my own daughter! I dont drink nor smoke pot and have never had any problem with the law, ive just been trying to take care of my kids, they are my life. What can I do please help??!!
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Uhhu.
Well, there is a tremendous number of things glaringly ABSENT from your posting. First of all, if you pick up your kids at 7 am, then you must be sleeping while they are escaping, correct? This might also be a good time to point out that your children hearing your boyfriend "call you names" won't have nearly the effect on their lives that drowning in the deep end of the pool or being sexually molested and murdered, abducted, etc. could have. Being the ages that they are, why didn't they go to school?
Next. There has to be more to the story than you are telling. The child endangerment charges---what happened when you went to court? You were found guilty, I presume? What was your sentence? Now.... I cannot understand how being guilty of child neglect or endangerment means you cannot contact , call, or spend time with your children. I could understand if the court ordered SUPERVISED visitation---but one or two days a month? I don't understand. What else haven't you posted that would help explain this?
And, to offer you some perspective since you seem to miss the gravity of the situation ( since there are literally hundreds of deadly things INSIDE of a house to harm as child as well).....I am the widowed mom of seven and NEVER has a child of mine "escaped". What you are explaining is not a common acceptable occurrence---and you need to see it as shocking behavior. I would have quit my JOB before I would have left my children unattended---even to sleep. Were you ordered into parenting classes?
You seem to have no clue as to the seriousness of what happened and of what COULD have happened.
Now, explain why you didn't get supervised visitation instead of two days a month--and what are the stipulations of those two days? Before a restraining order can be granted, a hearing to show cause must happen--I know--I've been awarded restraining orders against people in the past. Did you go to the hearing to show cause? On what grounds did the ex say the RO should be granted?