Also, in looking back at your response I realized I hadn't answered all of your questions...no he does not have activities every day.... That would be too much for a 9 year old child. There is no way to change the visitation schedule... my ex says that is the only day he can spare to visit with our son and there is no way to rearrange his schedule... mind you he is the manager of a storage facility place and as such should be able to make the schedule. My ex is a very demanding man who when he does not get his way will resort to verbal abuse and threats. I ALWAYS give him a heads up in advance that our son would like to do such and such would he be willing to ensure that he is at the games should it fall on his weekend....he refuses. Our son has not played any sports since the fall and this was a decision made because he was experiencing some learning difficulties at school and thought it would be best for him to concentrate on school. He has tried really hard in school and he asked if during the summer he could play summer basketball. Considering how much effort he has put in trying to do good in school I thought it would be a nice thing for him to do and sent an email to my ex letting him know that our son wanted to play in a summer basketball league and that I might be able to sign him up...if i was able to would he be willing to bring our son to the tryouts and any games if it fell on his weekend... He refused, told my son that activities are a privilege that is earned and because he has had trouble in school he has not earned the right to do anything during the summer.... imagine how I felt when my son entered our home crying his eyes out because of what his father had told him. These are the issues I have to deal with.