Hello everyone! I am new to this site but I need advice and I am unable to hire an attorney to help me with this. To make the story short, I have primary physical custody of a 9 year old son and his father has visitation every Tuesday from around 5-6pm until 8pm when he has to return our son to my home and every other weekend. My son is a typical 9year old child that enjoys participating in extracurricular activities such as basketball, football etc. My ex lives about an hour to an hour and a half away and refuses to comply with our custody order by ensuring that our son attends his practices and games if they fall on his visitation time. He states it is his visitation time and feels it interferes so he does not take him. He also feels that I need to discuss everyday things with him and if he does not agree with our son participating in an activity because it takes up his time then our son should not participate in activities. I've tried to explain to him that our son enjoys his activities and how it is not fair to him to miss out on things but it falls on deaf ears. He is very difficult to deal with and regardless of how I've tried to work with him he is very vindictive and if he does not get his way can be verbally abusive. We recently went to court and the judge told him that he needs to abide by the order and ensure our son attends his activities but now two days later my ex and his attorney are telling me that if the ex does not agree and is not included in day to day decision then our son should not be participating in activities because it is taking up my ex's time. For the last 8years since he left my son and I have done everything possible to work with him and include him in decisions but it is a constant battle and he is not very proactive when it comes to making decisions. I understand that legal custody deals with sharing in the decision making regarding major issues such as education, health issues and religion but day to day decisions? I am unable to afford an attorney (I live in the DC area as a single mother receiving only $300 in c/s so times are tough!) to represent me in court. Can anybody please offer any insight or advice on how I deal with this? I GREATLY appreciate any assistance that anyone can provide!