The option to move is not one I can make. I do have a five year old daughter here to consider. I would be willing to do what is in the best interest of the child even if that ment leaving him be. The issue comes down to even though her husband's name is on the birth certificate, they have decided they could get extra income from me. Trust me I know I made some really really bad decisions and but I am willing to support my child, I just do not think I should have to pay support on a child that does not have my last name and I do not get to see.

I would rather put the money in an account so that when he is older and needs it he would have it for college, first car, what ever. I know .. not up to me the system is certainly flawed! I am being told that if I do nothing the state of California can not touch me. I am just not sure I could live with my self.

Thank you for the input. It is disappointing to think I might not have a relationship with my son.

On another note ... usually when she does call all she wants to do is tell me she wants me back (and yes she is married and I have been in a relationship for a year now but she loves calling late at night asking if I love her. She has told me she is willing to leave her husband and two of her "difficult" children and move here to be with me!) When I tell her that I find it impossible to forgive her for her behavior .. which includes cutting me with a knife .. she gets mad and tells me I will never see my son. Sigh such drama. Lesson learned, need to think with my BRAIN next time.