07-10-2007, 09:57 PM
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Originally Posted by jsnric31
I am trying to find out all I can about Alienation of Affection Laws and lawsuits. I know that Indiana,where I live,does not have a law on the books anymore but I am not going to be discouraged by that. The situation is rather delicate,since it involves not a person but rather a large established entity,namely the Cathollic Church.
My girlfriend of about two years broke up with me the other day. The reason for said break-up is that she decided God was more important to her. She lives in the Philippines and is very active in her church. Before we met,she told me it was one of her fondest wishes to have a SOLD (State Of Life Discernment). This week she found out she was in line for it. Before finding out what was required of her,she said Yes. Only afterward did they tell her that she could not have any kind of physical relationship (i.e. boyfriend,husband,lover,etc.) with a male as it may unfairly bias her decision. Now,I love this woman with all my heart and will not stand in her way,but at the same time there is the issue of pain and emotional suffering on my part. I am greatly displeased because there was no full disclosure on the part of the church (or whoever it was that told her about being accepted ) before she made her decision. I'm not saying she would have turned them down for me,I just think she should have taken the matter into some consideration,talked it over with me,etc. Is there anything I can do? Are there any legal grounds for me? I don't want any money out of this,I just want to see my girlfriend and talk to her but I can't because when you go through this kind of religious thing they isolate you from modern life and no one is willing to help me get in touch with her.
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I'm forwarding a few links to you via private message above that obviously don't answer your legal questions. I think you're already aware that your particular circumstances don't fit the legal definition of 'alienation of affections,' (see http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Alienation_of_affections.) You just may not quite be prepared to accept it.
I'm curious as to whether you've investigated the particular religious procedure you've described. I'll admit this is a new one to me, but from the research I've done since originally viewing your post several days ago, this is designed to give the person ample time and space (without modern day distractions) to fully evaluate themselves and their place in life. (Simply put, of course.) I don't get the impression this is necessarily to push someone into the priesthood or formal church service, rather a time of personal contemplation and meditation. On a personal note, I do have to say that unless you've spent a lifetime conditioned to living up to everyone else's expectations and desires as most women are still being raised to this day, you'll probably never understand what a luxury an experience such as this would be. That being said, it does appear to me a fairly drastic way of doing so; I wouldn't necessarily recommend such a stark way of doing it. To someone with such obvious religious convictions as your ex-girlfriend, however, it must've presented an opportunity she felt was necessary.
If you care as much as you've indicated, I can only suggest you not proceed with legal action. Even if there were legal precedent, I don't believe you'd prevail when tackling such a large (religious) institution. It certainly won't bring your ex back to you. That's a decision she'll make on her own, possibly even during this procedure and unfortunately, it's not something you can control. Who knows? She may change her mind .. she may not. In the meantime, you may want to educate yourself on the purpose of the procedure.
Sorry, no legal help here .. just 100% personal opinion. Good luck.
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